Loss in the house
When your dog loses a companion
When one dog dies, the one left behind loses a housemate, a routine and often some of the attention that went to the sick dog. This guide sets out what published research has found about dogs after a loss, what the first two weeks can look like at home, and where company from other dogs helps.
What research shows
Two owner surveys found that most surviving dogs changed, usually for weeks or months
The largest study so far is by Uccheddu and colleagues, published in Scientific Reports in 2022. They surveyed 426 adults in Italy who had lost one dog while another still lived with them. Owners reported the surviving dog seeking more attention, playing less, being less active, sleeping more, becoming more fearful, eating less and vocalizing more; only 13.4 percent noticed no change at all. The changes lasted under two months for 29.4 percent of dogs, two to six months for 32.2 percent and more than six months for 24.9 percent.
An earlier survey from New Zealand and Australia, by Walker, Waran and Phillips in the journal Animals in 2016, covered 159 dogs and found a similar pattern. Thirty-five percent of the dogs demanded more attention, 26 percent became clingy, 34 percent slept more and 30 percent sought out the dead companion's favorite spot; the median change lasted less than six months. Both studies relied on what owners reported, which matters for how far the numbers can be pushed.
| Change owners reported in the surviving dog | Share of dogs, 2022 study |
|---|---|
| Sought more attention | 67 percent |
| Played less | 57 percent |
| Less active | 46 percent |
| Slept more | 35 percent |
| More fearful | 35 percent |
| Ate less | 32 percent |
| Vocalized more | 30 percent |
| No change at all | 13.4 percent |
What it means
How close the dogs were predicted the changes, not their years together, and the owner's grief mattered too
The 2022 study also looked at what predicted the changes. Dogs whose relationship with the dead companion had been friendly were more likely to play less, and dogs that had shared food were more likely to be less active and sleep more. How long the two had lived together was not a predictor in the authors' analysis, and whether the surviving dog had seen the body made no difference to how long its changes lasted.
The owners' own state mattered. Owner grief was associated with the dog seeking more attention and eating less, and owner anger with the dog becoming more fearful. The authors are careful: owners may over-report grief, the data are perceptions, and they write that the changes might reflect separation stress and that they cannot confirm it was grief. Walker's team raised the same caution. Both studies agree the change is common enough to plan for.
- A close, friendly pair: expect less play for a while
- Dogs that shared food: expect more sleep and less activity
- Your own grief can show up in your dog's behavior
- Seeing the body made no measurable difference
The first two weeks
The first two weeks: keep the clock, the bed and the walking routes where they were
Routine is the one thing you can hold steady. Feed at the usual times in the usual place, walk the usual routes and leave the surviving dog's bed where it was. If the pair slept together, the survivor may look for the other at night or settle in its spot; both are common, and nearly a third of dogs in the 2016 survey sought out the companion's place. Let it, rather than moving the bed away.
If the two dogs had a beach habit, keep it: Gloucester's beaches take dogs from October 1 at the time of writing, Good Harbor on even-numbered days and Wingaersheek on odd ones. Watch appetite and energy without alarm over small changes. A dog that refuses food or water, or seems ill rather than flat, needs your vet whatever the cause, and sooner if the companion died of something the survivor could catch.
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Days 1 to 3: meals, walks and bedtime at the usual times, with the bed left where it was
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Days 1 to 7: extra short walks and sniffing time, with play offered but never pushed
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Week 1: a call to your vet if the dog stops eating or drinking, or if the companion's illness was contagious
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Week 1: keep or wash the other dog's bedding as you choose; the survivor may want to lie on it
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Week 2: one familiar social outing, such as the usual daycare day or a walk with a known dog
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End of week 2: note what has changed and what has come back before deciding anything bigger
Company
Familiar dogs and people help most; a new dog is a separate decision
Many surviving dogs had company all day, and losing it is part of what they react to. Familiar company helps more than new company: a walk with a neighbor's dog it already knows, a visit from a person it likes, or its usual playgroup. A dog that came to daycare alongside its companion may find the first day alone strange, so a half day at $33 can be the gentler return.
Another dog is a different question, and neither study shows that a new dog shortens the change. Bring one home when you are ready, not because the survivor looks lonely in week one, and give it its own slow introduction. When that time comes, Cape Ann Animal Aid in Gloucester is a good place to start looking. Some survivors turn out to prefer life as the only dog, which only becomes clear once the first weeks are behind you.
- Familiar dogs and people before new ones
- A half day before a full day back at daycare
- No new dog chosen in the first weeks as a fix for the survivor
- A trainer if distress at being left alone appears
Which service fits
Daycare, walks and enrichment fill the gap; a long stay somewhere unfamiliar in the first weeks does not
If your dog already comes to Dogtown, keep its days. Its group is 7 to 10 dogs matched by size and temperament, the handlers know it, and a familiar morning is one thing that has not changed. Tell the front desk about the loss so the handlers know why the dog may be quieter. If the dog is new to us, book the free evaluation for a weekday between 6:30 and 9:30 AM once it is eating and sleeping steadily.
For a dog alone at home more than before, a solo walk from $25 adds company in the middle of the day, and enrichment add-ons on a daycare day, a frozen Kong at $6 or the sniff room at $7, give a flat dog something to work at. What fits poorly in the first weeks, if you can avoid it, is a long stay somewhere the dog has never been, which stacks a second change on the first. If the drive to Eastern Ave feels like too much in these weeks, the Pup Van collects from homes in Rockport, Gloucester, Essex and Manchester-by-the-Sea for $10 each way.
At Dogtown
Company and routine for the dog left behind
A familiar playgroup, a midday walk and small jobs to work at, kept on the schedule the dog already knows.
Asked and answered
Questions people ask about this
Short, complete answers you can act on today. More in the full FAQ.
Do dogs grieve when another dog in the house dies?
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Will daycare help a dog that has lost its companion?
More questions? Read the full FAQ
Sources
- Uccheddu et al. 2022, Scientific Reports: dogs grieve over the loss of a conspecific
- Walker, Waran and Phillips 2016, Animals: owners' perceptions after the loss of an animal companion
- Gloucester beaches
- Cape Ann Animal Aid
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